Wednesday, February 16, 2011

For All Us Girls

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

'Don't forget your sisters,' she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. 'They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.' 

'Remember that 'sisters' means ALL the women...your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. 'You'll need other women. Women always do.'  

What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman thought. Haven't I just gotten married?  Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'


But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman,  sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world,  here is what I've learned:

Time passes.  Life happens.  Distance separates.  Children grow up.  Jobs come and go.  Love waxes and wanes.  Husbands don't always stay husbands.  Hearts break.  Parents die.  Colleagues forget favors.  Careers end.  BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.  When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you....or come in and carry you out.  

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family: all bless our life!  The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we  would need each other.  Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on

To all the women who have and are in my life - THANK YOU!

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Talent - Smarts - Looks - Humor - Athleticism

What an interesting class.  As I look through our La Corona for the Class of '73, many memories are either flooding back or being jogged back.  Good memories which I placed on a shelf while being kept busy with starting a career, getting married, getting divorced, moving, getting married again and now, catching up with people who, I am ashamed to say, I remembered but whom I didn't take the time to keep in touch.

What a cool group of kids we were and what outstanding young men and women you've become (hey, our 40th reunion is two years away, but my life is only half over as is yours, so we're still young men and women!).

This blog is for you, Kofa Kings of '73!  Add comments, add memories, reconnect with old friends and get to know some old ones better.  In two years, we can maybe make a book that we can share with our kids, grandkids, greatgrandchildren......WAIT!   We're not old enough to be grandparents let alone great.....!

Have fun!